Our new au pair is leaving us - for unfortunate reasons and against what she'd like to do, she has to go back to her home country. It's a sad story and I feel deeply for her.
For us it's back to the au pair search. Not nearly the same magnitude of a problem as what our au pair is facing, but still, oh joy.
We interviewed six people to replace J, our lovely summer au pair.
One didn't ask any questions at all, making it an interview with long silences once we had run out of things to say and before she needed to leave to take the train home. This didn't bode well for dinners together.
One was sugary sweet and overly polite, and also a very definite and dominating presence. This both annoyed and intimidated me, respectively.
One seemed OK except that just the week before she'd suddenly left her previous au pair job in a perfect family after an (understandable) emotional breakdown and now (inexplicably) didn't want us to speak to them ... and then let slip that her boyfriend had recently thrown her mobile phone out the window in a fit of rage at her speaking to other males. This didn't help me believe that there wouldn't soon be another crisis.
One got a face full of Téo fiddling with himself. Apart from that, she wasn't actually an au pair.*
One we didn't even get to interview because, despite C spending a lot of time charming her mother, she did a no-show twice. Twice. And then she had the nerve to be rude when C told her we'd chosen someone else!!**
The sixth, who was the first we interviewed, seemed capable and pleasant. She got the job.
Here's hoping we find someone good to replace her quickly - for both the kids and my deadlines!
* She would have minded the kids in her own home... but J spoiled us with the benefits of having an extra pair of hands around even when I wasn't working. Like at dinner time.** Here's the whole story if you are interested:It started when the mother (who was handling all the emails) dismissed us as being an option because other families had sent lovely welcoming emails and pictures of their kids and houses in contrast to C's short email followed by a telephone call. So C spent an evening writing a very polite email to the daughter (sent through her mother) and taking pictures of the kids and the entire floor we have to offer to an au pair. He was rewarded with a very effusive email from the mother gushing over our beautiful children and saying that we were now the favourites. So he got what he wanted... but she was never a real candidate after this as we still had no direct contact with the daughter and the mother seemed a little over the top (e.g., she told us hadn't sent any pictures of her daughter (not that we asked for any) because the ones she had were not to her daughter's advantage) . I was concerned that if we took on this girl, the mother would be on our doorstep any time her precious darling didn't like something. And then the daughter failed to show up twice for an interview, and didn't even call to tell us she wasn't coming. Pity, as I was curious to meet them both in person. (You didn't think she'd be coming to the interview alone, did you??)